Things I Wish Could Tell My Younger Self

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Hey everyone! This is a bit of an impromptu post, as I having a conversation with one of my best friends and we were talking about what we would tell younger ourselves if we could go back in time, and it was something I had never really thought of before, and I thought it would be a fun thing to reflect and write about. Here are the things I wish I could tell my younger self.
1. Stop worrying about what people think of you

I struggled for so long worrying about peoples opinions of me and how they saw me, whether they liked me or not, it is such a stupid thing to worry about when you're young and it can make you change the person you are to "fit in". Stopping caring about what others thought of me is one of the best things I have ever done for myself. 
2. Stop worrying about your first kiss

Oh wow hello teenage me, who worries about this constantly.Asking myself questions like...  Who is going to be my first kiss ? Am I going to like it/him ? Will I do it right? I wish i could go back and shake her and tell her its literally nothing to worry about, if anything its pretty basic, and with the guy, yes you liked him so chill out! Its not the end of the world that you hadn't had your first kiss yet. 

3. High school drama means nothing!

Ugh! The one thing everyone is guaranteed to experience whichever school you went to, there was always drama! Especially in an all girls school. Cliques, who was friends with who, who was gossiping about something new. Literally none of that matter when you leave honestly. I remember being so scared because of who I was sitting with at lunch that I hid in one of the computer rooms. It was so stupid that I ever had to do that. I look back now and just shake my head at how much you think high school drama is the end of the world.  
4. You went to University and got a Degree!

Okay a nice one now, that I would just love to go back in time to tell little me this so I could see the look on her face. I had always wanted to go to university from a very young age, I don't know why but i always had my head set on university and to be able to tell her that she did it, now has a degree and is going back for her Master's degree in London would have been the best news ever. 
5.Boys arent scary

Okay going to an all girls school definitely limits you from contact with boys for a very long time, around 7-8 years for me, so of course when the majority of my interactions every single day were with girls, boys become a little alien, so going to university and moving in with boys, they seemed so other. I didnt know how to interact with them so I was very quiet around them for a while. But oh my god there is no need to be! Boys are great, some of your best friends are boys and you have even dated a few and I wouldn't have it any other way. They have been a shoulder to cry on, an influence around alcohol resulting in a night filled with laughs and cards against humanity, someone to make you feel special and your first friends at university so I promise you boys are not scary. 
6.Take care of yourself

I cant stress this one enough. I'm going to be honest here, you never took care of yourself growing up and that has took me until now to realise, you always put other before you, and yes that is a great thing but sometimes you need to make sure you are okay too. Your health and mental health took a very big hit because of it and that took time to heal so please take care of yourself, even if it is just little things as saying no to something you actually don't want to do but feel like you have to because you feel like someone wont like you because of it. You will thank me for it later. I promise.

7. Don't let people try to tell you who are

All through my life I have had people try to telling who I am, and this has come from family, friends and strangers alike. People telling me that I'm this or that type of person. They don't mean anything by it but that effects the way you view yourself, throughout school people described me as quiet and naive, and I'm not, I'm really not. But hearing this so many times made me think it was true and that what so damaging for me and my confidence. Like if someone tried to describe me as quiet now, I would just laugh that is the oppisite of what I am, and naive? I am not, I am experienced, smart and I know what I'm doing so how can I naive? You know who you are, dont let people try to convice you otherwise.   

8. You are not prude, you're demisexual there's a difference.

Where do I start. From the ages of 15-20 years old I was called prude, and still till this day i cannot stand whenever someone calls me that. Okay younger Holly, when your friends start having conversation about sex and start playing never have I ever and you don't want to take part because you're not interested THAT'S OKAY .  Don't listen to them when they all call you boring or a prude that is not what your are at all! You are Demisexual there is a difference, so ignore all those people they clearly don't matter enough for you to worry about.

9.Just because someone is your friend now doesn't mean they will be in the future, so be careful.

This is something I had to learn the hard way. During my life I have lost two best friends for different reasons, and you cannot help that, some drift away and some you realise were not good for you. It's difficult to realise that someone you think will always be in your life can actually not be, is strange and sometimes you cannot do anything about it. Just try and watch out for the people who wear fake smiles around you.

10. You will find people who love and accept you, for who you are. 

The most important one. For the majority of my life I have always felt left out, like an outsider on everything and honestly growing up feeling that way is horrible. But if I could tell my younger self anything it would be that soon you find yourself surrounded by people that love you for you and they make you feel included and wouldn't want to change anything about you. These people have come from school, university, work and blogging! And let me tell you one thing, they never let you feel alone. So hang in there, I promise these people are on there way.

There you go these are some of things I wish I could tell little Holly, hearing these things would have definitely helped me growing up, I wonder how different my life would be now if I had known these things. Oh well, the things i have gone through have made me the person I am today, and I quite like that person. 

Write again soon xxx

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  1. Wouldn't it be amazing if we could go back to our teenage days and convince ourselves that things WOULD get better and all those problems keeping us awake at night we wouldn't even remember now. Hindsight is such a beautiful thing!

    Sarah :)
    Saloca in Wonderland



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